a strange relationship with summer

 its odd

the british summertime

the americans came over a year or two ago

to race against us

and they who we know have such blue skies

such little cloud in comparison were stunned by our long days

we don't really think of ourself as a northern country 

we are not scandinavian

but really we are with the level of sunlight we get 

these last few months

in the evenings looking out of my window and the light

its special - that part makes me feel good

its the daytimes

the sometimes oppressive heat

and more majorly the knowledge that accross the country there is fun to be had that hurts me

when im sitting inside 

looking at it

-

i try not to do that very much

its rather disheartening

i wonder 

how many people feel the same

how many people look at their windows at a nice day and feel guilty they are not out in it 

doing something

let me tell you 

when you are it is everything you hope you are not missing

which makes going back to being inside ...

sad


the thing is they enjoyment you get from good weather and good people is one thing

but the enjoyment from good weather by yourself outside, perhaps with a podcast to imitate company

that can be good

and sometimes being outside will expose you to people or events going on 

and then suddenly a lonely day can get a bit less lonely

.

I think one day i dream of every nice day having a group of family and friends to do things with

that is what is speical about sailing for me

going down to the club

often seeing someone i know

working or sailing or working on a boat, working in the clubhouse. no one working in the way we interpret working. as truly negative. working + enjoying.

that's special

that's why hawaii is special. is like a dreamland. always good days. always good waves

turn up to a local break

see other people in the water

no plan

no oragniser

and yet there is sport and activitiy and adrenaline

that is special. 


adrenaline might be as good as relationships.

it's not

but in the absence of one

that is as a high and as low as life can get

and i think life does need its highs and its lows

its better to make them yourself

than wait for you mind to create them 

when your mind starts creating

thats when it starts lying to you

when it starts lying to you

well if you cant trust your own mind, what can you trust. family and friends

a lack of whom is the very issue that probably causes said overthinking.


That is all a little bit deep. 

a lack of things to do and places to see. that is what causes that. i might guess. and yet here i am today

overthinking

after sailing for  6 hours

on the whole with a fair amount of intensity 

a 30 minute lunch break in the middle

goodness gracious

that is hard work

not the hardest i could work

but hard work.


nowadays that is what summer is about

an escape from university to work on whatever we want to work on

and hopefully not have too many days sitting inside watching the sunshine 

counting the hours till it rains again.

but all these negative feelings should be felt

because as anyone who has 'glowed' after a breakup knows

harsh feelings help

they are a stimulus 

happy people can have stimulus too

but if you are unhappy you can get there

you might have even been there before

if you've climbed a hill once, you can probably do it again

unlike physical feats i am not convinced mental ones get much easier, on a micro level

but over decades 

they do say the 30s 40s and 50s can be the happiest years

so us 20 years olds probably should take feeling bad once in a while and keep striving 

like britain

all its land and people. flaws and faculties

through long winters of grey

to find months of warmth which one day, perhaps tomorrow, perhaps next week. perhaps today

can appear. can arrive. or can be driven too.


one thing i've noticed is negative feelings might just be thirst. hunger. a need to stretch. or exercise. or blow your nose. chat with someone. 

summer is always closer than you think 

i've come to expect it every now and then now

maybe even anticipate it

I hope its a long one everytime

its usually not

but every day of sunshine 

and now i am talking very metaphorically 

every day of sunshine 

should be enjoyed

thats why we feel bad about sitting inside

we should enjoy life

like we used to 

we = people of the last 10 thousand years

enjoy = be outside. exericise. talk with friends. love and be loved. play. 

to craft that life will take time

but i know we will get there

becuase if we are already there sometimes

if we have already shaped life at such a young age 

then summer is coming 

and it will be the longest yet

there is a global warming coming

for those who want 

we should probably stop global warming (the bad one)

and reach and out and grab the good one


surely no one will read all that

but i probably will

to remind myself